As the new normal continues to be anything but normal and the strangeness of 2020 stretches on into the foreseeable future, it seems like a mental health check in is in order. How are we holding up? A quick look around at yourself and your loved ones might be a bit alarming. (How long has he been wearing that pair of lounge pants anyway? Is hair brushing actually essential?) Among my tribe I’ve begun to notice that even the toughest are starting to crack a bit under the pressure of doing the right thing in a world where the right thing depends on who you ask.
The effects of the long-term suspension of our normal outlets and activities are really starting to show. Depression, frustration, anger, and addictive behaviors of all kinds are becoming all too common in “the new normal”. We are consuming more alcohol, binge watching more television, hitting the add to cart button with reckless abandon, spending hours scrolling through TicTok and Instagram. If it’s a crutch or an escape mechanism, we are holding onto that puppy like a life raft these days.
For me that means spending hours with my head in a book or designing dream homes for Sims and running their tiny, old-normal lives. It means smoking more than I should and drinking more often. It means allowing my younger son to spend waaaay too much time on his latest video game obsession, after all, he’s at least communicating with people on there, so that’s something, right? Like the rest of the country, we are here holding onto whatever pieces of normal we have been able to preserve and keeping our eyes on them in hopes we wake to a brighter, normal-er future. Not to spoil a perfectly good escape mechanism but, hiding from our problems has never solved them before and it’s not likely to now.
If we don’t start gaining control of our crutches, we may soon find we can’t do without them. Crutches are tricky like that. “Yeah but, Stasha, life still sucks, and I can’t do what I want, and its making me depressed so…” I hear ya, I feel ya, I am right here with you. I’d like very much to just build the tiny homes all day and not pay any attention to the general state of the world outside my door. But the building of virtual realities will not make my reality nicer when I emerge.
Life rolls on, whether we are paying it any attention or not. So, whatever it is you are missing, or stressing about, or afraid of, or uncertain about, it’s time to start looking it over. Consider the things you can control first, maybe start by taking a bit more control of when you choose to pick up the crutches. We may not be able to solve all of the problems we see, but we just might be able to take a crack at our own. Overwhelmed or need help to find your way back to okay? Take a look at the this –> list and call or click for help today.